Red flags people avoid in a partner – Business Insider


“This unattractive quality covers a lot of territory,” said Joseph Burgo, psychotherapist and author of “The Narcissist You Know.”

“People who think only of themselves and lack interest in other people tend to make poor relationship partners because they don’t care about the other person’s feelings. They’re also inconsiderate and selfish in bed.

“Healthy relationships involve reciprocity where each partner’s needs are important, including the need to feel seen and heard. Nobody wants to serve as non-stop audience to another person.”

Michael McNulty, Master Trainer and Certified Gottman Relationship Therapist from The Chicago Relationship Center, said much the same thing:

“People who are always first and foremost centered on their owns needs to the exclusion of others are unable to be in healthy, growth-promoting relationships. The constant focus on themselves leave their partner’s questioning the legitimacy their own needs.

“That kind of dynamic is damaging to the other person’s sense of self-esteem and overall emotional life. The self-centered are great at convincing people they deserve what they want. Best advice: Run the other way.”